Choosing What Happens Does Not Mean Approving It
If it is happening, choose it. The phrase can sound impossible when what is happening is painful or unfair. Why would anyone choose a missed promise, a relationship ending, or a condition they would urgently change?
The word choose needs care. We do not choose every event that reaches us. We do not have to approve of harm, agree with a decision, or call a loss beneficial. We can choose to meet the fact that it has happened and decide how we will respond now.
Often we reserve choice for what we like. We say yes to an agreeable circumstance and no to one that violates our hopes. Our judgment may be sound, yet it does not move us outside the event. Even while we object, the present still asks something of us.
Choosing what happens means bringing our judgment, grief, and disagreement into an honest view of the situation. From there we can seek help, set a boundary, make a repair, or work for change. We can choose a response without choosing the injury that made it necessary.
What happened is here. Approval is optional. Our next action is still ours to consider.