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Resistance often invites more resistance. Someone challenges us, so we explain harder. They grow more skeptical, and we become more persuasive. Soon the original subject gives way to a contest over who will move whom.

A resistant person need not become an opponent. We can listen to the objection, leave room for silence, and stop trying to demonstrate superior intelligence. None of that requires surrendering our position.

This approach cannot guarantee agreement. Some people remain hostile or unwilling to engage, and boundaries may be necessary. But force is not the only alternative to giving in.

Sometimes a difficult conversation changes when we stop treating the other person’s resistance as something we must defeat.