Give Your Part Fully Without Carrying the Whole Relationship
When a relationship is strained, it is tempting to measure each person's half. I made the call; you should make the next one. I apologized; now you should. A ledger may reveal a real imbalance, but it can also make care feel like a series of invoices.
A more useful question is whether I am giving my own part honestly. Have I said what I need, listened to what you need, kept the promises I made, and named the change I am willing to make? I can answer those questions without waiting for a matching gesture. My part is mine to offer fully.
That does not make me responsible for your choices. I cannot apologize for you, create your willingness, or carry a relationship through repeated neglect or harm by increasing my effort. If I am doing all the asking, repairing, and adapting, the imbalance is information. It may call for a direct conversation, a boundary, or a decision to leave.
Giving our part fully is different from taking the whole weight. It replaces scorekeeping with a clear account of our own conduct while leaving the other person free and accountable for theirs. A relationship can grow when both people respond. When they do not, honesty about that fact is also an act of care.