Getting What You Want Is an Unstable Measure of Happiness
Getting what we want can feel very good. The mistake is making that the only available definition of happiness. Preferences are unstable conditions. Weather changes. Plans fail. People say no. Bodies age. A success that once felt extraordinary becomes ordinary. A new desire appears behind the desire that was just satisfied.
If happiness is measured only by how closely reality matches preference, happiness inherits all of that instability.
This does not mean we should stop wanting things. Preference gives direction to ordinary life. We can prefer health to illness, peace to conflict, enough money to deprivation, connection to loneliness, sun to rain.
The distinction is between preference and prerequisite. I can prefer a different condition without insisting that no happiness is available until the condition changes. That stance does not guarantee happiness. It prevents preference from becoming the sole authority over whether happiness is allowed.
Getting what we want matters. It is simply too unstable to carry the whole weight of well-being.