Acceptance of Outcome Is Not Determinism
A seed does not worry about becoming a tree. We do not know what, if anything, a seed experiences. The image still makes a question available to us: what does our worry add to the future we are trying to meet?
We prepare, choose, and act under uncertainty. Some concern helps us notice a risk and take care. At other times, we return to the same feared outcome after there is nothing new to decide. The rehearsal grows heavier, but the situation does not become clearer.
Every completed event has turned out the way it turned out. Accepting that fact is retrospective; it is not a claim that the result was inevitable or that our actions were irrelevant. It lets us look at what happened without arguing for a different past to be present now.
The future is different. We do not know how it will turn out. Our choices, other people, chance, and conditions beyond us can all matter. We can plan without treating worry itself as a form of control.
When fear appears, the question need not be how to eliminate it. What can I do now? What remains outside my reach? Am I attending to a real decision, or adding weight to an outcome I cannot yet know? Life will go on from what actually happens; we can meet it with more attention and less needless rehearsal.